David Meessen
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The successful man's guide to finding the right woman, and spotting the wrong one before she costs you years.
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By David MeessenDating coach for successful men · 1M+ followers on Instagram
What's inside
Chemistry gets you to date three. Compatibility gets you to year thirty. If you've ever fallen for "hot but crazy", or settled for someone you weren't really drawn to and called it maturity, this guide shows you what you couldn't see.
The Red Flag Pyramid: thirty flags in three layers. Values, emotional, behaviour & lifestyle. Know which layer you're looking at and you'll know how seriously to take it.
Once the red flags are gone, what are you actually looking for? Twelve things that sound almost too simple, and that most men didn't pay attention to last time.
Run it after the third date with the same woman, and again at three months. Two minutes, honestly answered, beats two years of hoping.
"The question is never her worst moment. The question is where she lives ninety-five percent of the time."
From the guide · The Red Flag Pyramid
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Who wrote this guide
Dating coach for successful men · Certified Life & Executive Coach (ILI)
I grew up in Germany with red hair and zero confidence around women. Later I married a woman who wasn't right for me. Not a bad person, just not right for me. I didn't see a single red flag until it had cost me years.
Then a mentor at Salesforce in Dublin showed me how to start a conversation with a woman, and I treated dating like any other skill: a system, a standard, feedback, no ego. That's how I met my fiancée Fernanda, by walking up to her in a pub and saying hello.
Since then I've coached hundreds of men through the same process: doctors, founders, finance guys, engineers. Men who were winning everywhere except here. Nobody had ever shown them the flags, the standard and the process. That's what this guide is.
Clients
"It's actually been the best relationship I've ever had."
"6 months ago, I never imagined I'd be in a fulfilling relationship. Now I'm meeting her family. Things feel solid."
From one date every couple of months to married. In David's words, he's "the happiest he's ever been".
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